Continue to Date Your Wife

Most men put all their time and energy on getting their girl. Now that you have your sweetheart and the wedding is over your job is done, right?  Sorry men, you just got started!

The next tip is to continue to date your wife. If possible, make a date night once a week. I don't care if you are 21 or 91 taking your wife out on the town or planning an at home evening for two will continue that fire between you to burn.

Let's go back to the time you were dating.  Remember when you would call her and ask her out. She would get excited and get herself all dolled up. You'd get the car washed and vacuumed. You'd both look and smell great, and of course would act on your very best behavior. You'd talk about interests, likes, dislikes, and the future.  You would try to be the perfect gentleman and try to impress her with your date night plans so that she would fall more and more in love with you.

If you want your love to keep growing, this is a must! It will help your relationship to get deeper and stronger as the years continue. It will also help you stay connected in each other's lives, and more importantly it is the time that both of you will have the opportunity to focus 100 percent on building your relationship.

So how do you date your wife?

To start, think about what you did when you first met her. How did you get her attention? How would you ask her out? What did you do on your dates?  What was one of her favorite dates? If you know how to win her over, go back to the basics. If you really did not do much besides dinner and a movie or are bored with the same routine, try to think of new and fun things to do. (Check out our blog every Friday night for date ideas!)

Second, even though you live with your wife, you still can make the effort to call her and ask her out. If you have a standing weekly date night or you want to spice it up, you could even leave her a note Friday morning with a hint of the night's activity or just to tell her how excited you are about the evening. Depending on your wife, you could even make the babysitting arrangements for her so it's one less thing she has to do.

Next, dress for the occasion and let her know what to expect. There is nothing more frustrating than getting in heels only later to find out that you're going to a baseball game. Also, men you have to make an effort. Make sure you look nice. You want her to still have eyes for you! If you want to surprise her, just make sure to either pack the appropriate gear for her and hide it in the car, or if you want to go the safe route, which I would recommend, let her know the minimum details to be sure she's going to be comfortable and has made appropriate babysitting arrangements. No matter what you do, whether it is a pajama party at home or a romantic restaurant overlooking the city, make sure that you've thought of her and that she is going to have fun!

Last but definitely not least, on your date be the prince she has dreamed of marrying her whole life. On occasion, surprise her with flowers. Always open the door for her, unless you know for sure she doesn't like that.  Be kind and courteous. Use your manners. Show her that she made the right decision by choosing you!

Love is something you have to keep working on.  So once a week, try and challenge yourself to see if you can get your wife to fall in love with you all over again, or see if you can impress her!